Tactical And Emotional Approaches To Managing Imposter Syndrome
In my recent coaching calls, a common theme centered around imposter syndrome.
Some of my clients have expressed feeling unsure about their abilities and questioning if they are doing a good job in their current roles. These concerns are understandable, especially for those who are either trying to transition into something new, or want to transition, or just completed the transition.
Here's some advice for managing imposter syndrome and the emotions associated with it. Note that the word "managing" is used here instead of "overcoming" imposter syndrome, as I believe imposter syndrome is not something that can be overcome for good as it will always come up during transitions. Personally, I am not a stranger to imposter syndrome, it's something I've been experiencing since childhood, no matter how "successful" I looked on paper while I battled with acceptance.
Tactical Approach: First and foremost, as mentioned above, it's important to remember that you are not alone. Everyone goes through a period of adjustment during transitions, and it's normal to feel uncertain or overwhelmed. One tactic that can help is to work on setting concrete and actionable goals. This will give you an objective view of either your own expectations or your manager's expectations, rather than relying solely on your own perceptions. It's also helpful to take time to reflect on your accomplishments, even the small ones, and celebrate your progress.
Emotional Approach: Imposter syndrome is rooted in negative self-talk, where your thoughts can be perceived as reality even when they are not factual. It's important to recognize and acknowledge that certain thoughts are purely just thoughts, and reframe them in a positive and empowering way focusing on your strengths and accomplishments. For example, if you find yourself thinking, "I'm not good enough for this job," try reframing it to, "I may be new to this role or project or situation, but I have the skills and experience to learn and grow." It's also very important to remember that thoughts come and go, meaning that negative thoughts will also come and go if you let it. When you let go of negative thoughts, you are allowing positive thoughts to come in that will create a more appropriate reality for you.
Lastly, remember that your experiences and challenges shape who you are as a person, not just your accomplishments. As Cheryl Sandberg said, "It is the hard days, the days that challenge you to your core, that will determine who you are." By embracing challenges and pushing through imposter syndrome, you are growing and developing as a person.
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